A bad grade in school, getting cut from an audition, a failed relationship, and even losing in a video game was seen as nothing more than “Welp, I suck, and now I’m upset.”

I used to look at losing as this terrible thing you try to avoid at all costs. But I have evolved to understand that losing is really just a stepping stone to future wins. Now my mentality is:

Of course “losing” is a real thing, and it’s important to acknowledge when you have lost, but instead of dwelling on the loss, or getting upset, I try looking at losing as a learning experience.

Every time I lose or fall short of something I was trying to accomplish it becomes a training ground for understanding. Instead of getting frustrated I ask myself questions to help me better understand my loss:

Now this takes my loss and turns it into a tool for growth that will help me build towards my next win. So do your best to be as proactive as possible to win as much as you can, but when you lose, don’t hold yourself back by getting upset. 

Check, make adjustments, learn, grow, repeat.

When you think of it this way there is no losing, only learning.